Violet Said:

Is she just a booty call?

We Answered:

The only thing that matters is t hat your husband has been involved in an emotional affair that turned into a sexual affair. This has been going on for a long time. What difference does it make who loves who more.


Divorce the loser and start collecting child support. You deserve better.

Amanda Said:

How to to read the minutes at meetings?

We Answered:

In the next meeting, highlight the topics from the first meeting under old business, then ask if there is any new business to discuss; this in turn becomes old biz for next meet and so on :}

Lena Said:

What do you make of this affair?

We Answered:

Okay, I've read this same set of facts over and over again. So here's the answer.

He's all into her. She can live without him totally.

Short answer he has feelings for her. Not the other way around.

Teresa Said:

How do I write essays in English Comp 1 faster?

We Answered:

Do your outline first.

When you have a clear outline then it is easier to write to it.

Jorge Said:

Is this emotional as well as sexual?

We Answered:

Either way their both wrong even if she does seem to have more feelings of not wanting to do it. Doesn't change the fact she did. There is no excuse for that. She knew he was married to you and he knew she had a husband. Even though she tried to break it off..she didn't keep to it like she should have..and he kept on trying to meet her. You should never try to be friends with someone that you know you have a thing for while in another relationship. They are both full grown adults that made a choice to keep in touch..knowing that it might lead to something else. Even though he was going after her she had a choice not to respond back after she broke it off the first time. But still I would be more angry towards the husband since he married you and not her. He broke his vows to you and went after another woman. The same man that sleeps in the same bed, same house and had kids with you. That you had trusted and decided to be married to. It makes you wonder why people get married in the first place and than don't take their vows seriously no matter how rocky the relationship gets at times. If this was my situation I would rather have the husband divorce me than cheat on me at least than your legally separated and can both do what ever the hell you want. But not while he's still committed to me. Because you can hurt a lot of people that way.

So here's my question to you: From the first answer it seems like you have answered this question before...and I don't know you but I'm going to take a guess...Seems like your trying to come up with an excuse for her actions when there is known. She has a family and she knows it.. she lives with them everyday... but it didn't stop her. But I'm guessing with you knowing that she feels guilty that your hoping the affair won't last long. But are you willing to spend another 2 years with your head turned not knowing if it will or wont? How come you didn't say anything the first time? You probably didn't want your husband knowing that you read his e-mails but if you had suspicions than you had every right to find it out and you did. Also there could be many reasons why your still with him and have not said anything. But would you want your children growing up seeing that your hurting...because I'm sure their going to find out about daddy's affairs soon or later...and that can affect how their future relationship's can be with others... me I know... my father did the same to my mother. I was angry at my father and upset with my mother because she didn't do anything. Even though I love her to death. She should have divorced him a long time ago. Now I don't picture myself in a relationship.. I know I can't blame everyone for it... but still..It's something that I can't help but feel now. 14 years old when I found out..and I'm 22 years old now.

So you can post this question over and over again already knowing the answer. You just need to accept it and move on with your life with someone that'll treat you right. But it's up to you...

Nora Said:

Family Meetings?

We Answered:

First step i'd advise is to simply pick a SET DAY- either of the week or month. And do NOT miss that day! Make sure tv, phones, cells, work, everything is set aside for this! Its important!

Second, have an agenda. You know your family, perhaps get one of those big magic erase boards so during the week/month topics for discussions will be noted.

Third: involve everyone! Always ask children open-ended questions! Ones that cannot be answered with a 'yes' or 'no'. Really be interested, draw them out. Let the family know this is there time to talk about whatever is on their mind, not to be embarrassed cause they are being listened to.

Finally, have it timed. Its hard to sit for hours, you want this time to be enjoyable right? so let them know there is a set time. Extended topics can be discussed next meeting.

One more thing: TRY TO ALWAYS LEAVE IT POSITIVE. Everyone should feel like they spent time getting to know eachother and loving family.
Do what works for the schedule and hope this helps a little.

Sam Said:

Does he have feelings for her - or is it the other way around?

We Answered:

They both have feelings for the other and your husband has completing disrespected you and his children. He had many opportunities to not have sex with her and he chose to pursue her even when she was not responding. She did the same of course and has also disrespected her own husband and children.

You don't say if you have left and filed for divorce but it sounds like you are trying to find a way in your mind to justify his behavior.

They are both equally interested and both took an active roll in developing and continuing this affair. If you do forgive your husband you should prepare yourself for the fact that he will continue this affair with this woman and eventually he will leave you for her.